最近我的一位认识多年的朋友打了电话向我述说, 她觉得好心没好报, 她常常做义工, 帮助很多需要帮助的人. 可是她老是觉得她没有得到她想所要的回报, 经常苦恼, 觉得现在帮助人根本没有什么意义.
我想, 如果做过好事之后, 因为某些事件而浮现 "好心没好报", 表示对自己的付出并没有完全地 "心无罣碍", 才会以为 "好心" 应该有 "好报". 爱, 是不求回报的付出. 道理, 好容易懂. 做到, 似乎也并不困难. 有经验的人都说, 只要对布施出去的东西心无罣碍就好. 但是, 有形的东西或许还比较容易不计较, 无形的东西还是不容易放下.
记得以前我在念书的时候, 有一位老师曾经跟我分享一个故事: 有个老人在聚餐的场所兜售蛋, 因为乏人问津而显得落寞. 善心的年轻人看到他可怜的样子, 追着他的背影, 买下所有的蛋, 希望让这个老人可以早点回家休息. 他小心翼翼地将蛋分送给聚餐的朋友, 大家回去才发现每个蛋都是臭坏掉的. 他因此非常懊恼, 感觉自己好心没好报.
关键字来了, 没错, 就是 "好心没好报!" 这个感受. 如果做过好事之后, 因为某些事件而浮现 "好心没好报!" 表示对自己的付出并没有完全地 "心无罣碍", 才会以为 "好心" 应该有 "好报". 当你想要做帮助别人的好事, 纯然享受过程中的开心, 最高境界是把 "好" 字都删掉, 才不会对别人失望, 也不会让自己因为施舍而态度变得高傲. 精准地说, 就是当你想要替别人做点事, 还要看看对方是否真的有此需要, 而你是否可以用对方能够接受的方式提供服务. 如果没有留意到上述两个要件就贸然付出, 很可能没有帮上别人的忙, 还会让自己受伤.
I have two 'cultural club' friends (Chris & Sijie) whom i have known them for more than 10 over years and we always try to make time out of our busy schedule to catch some interesting theatre shows together whenever we can.
We got the tickets for "Happy Ever Laughter" a couple of months ago and finally we made our way to Esplanade Theatre today to watch it with much excitement as well as a 2.5 hours of non-stop laughter! All the cast has put up a fantastic performance and thumbs up to everyone involved in the production of this comedy show! Well-done!
Directed by Selina Tan and George Chan, the madness of this show comes in a variety of very Singaporean languages, mostly English but peppered with a little Malay, a smack of Dialect and Mandarin. So it is perfect for the family, eighteen and above of course.
The quality of talent on offer is unquestioned who can argue with a lineup which boasts the likes of Selena Tan, Moses Lim, Chua Enlai, Siti Khalijah, Michelle Chong, Judee Tan, Kumar, Sebastian Tan, Gurmit Singh, Najip Ali.
The topics covered ran the gamut of all that is close to the hearts of Singaporeans, from politics to food to medicine to cultural and racial differences.
We Singaporeans love to laugh at ourselves and can never get enough of such comedy shows. You deserve a laugh, so why not let these fantastic comedians give you a little Happy Ever Laughter?
There is a popular poem titled "Thank God for Dirty Dishes" that makes the point that if you are lucky to have enough food to make dirty dishes, you should be grateful. So instead of grousing about your property taxes, be thankful you own property (if any). When you have to wait in line at the bank or are stuck in traffic, just be grateful you have money in the bank and a car to drive (if any).
It makes sense, but that doesn't make it easy.
I have to admit that appreciation has not been a natural attribute for me. In my ambitious days when i believed that excess was not enough, gratitude seemed like a form of surrender and a very poor life strategy. After all, if you are satisfied with the way things are, you'll never make them better.
Only in the recent years i began to appreciate appreciation. I finally began to see that it was irresponsible and irrelevant not to realise how many things i should feel grateful for. I also came to realise how good it feels to acknowledge how good i have it.
Real gratitude is much more than politeness, like saying thank you when someone passes the salt or conveys good wishes. It is a deeper psychological state of genuine thankfulness.
Whether we believe whatever good fortune we have is the product of our own labour and talents, random luck, or a gift from Heaven, the fact remains that each of us could spend a full day identifying all the things that merit gratitude. If you never learn the language of gratitude, you'll never be speaking on terms with happiness.
I am still a 'beginner', but it's true. The more i appreciate, the happier i am. That's a lesson that i hope all of you can learn from it too.
My travel dates to Cambodia are finally confirmed! There was a change in my travel schedule to Cambodia, initally i planned to go to Siem Reap this month but had to postpone the travel dates due to some other work commitment. Nevertheless, i'll be leaving for Siem Reap early next month, so please stay tune to my travel shots taken at Siem Reap in August blog posts!
I have been reading everything that i need to know on how to stay safe and happy on my pending trip to Cambodia. Before every trip, in addition to reading guidebooks and planning my route, I read everything that I can know more about the area which I will be visiting - novels, memoirs, histories. That will really deepens my understanding of a place. :-)
Sometimes I wonder if I would have gotten into photography when film was the only option.
Digital cameras make everything so easy for a photographer. You can shoot as much as you want so to speak and you’ll probably get a few good shots and no one has to see the rest. Your exposure settings are saved for later study. You don’t have to change film, or pay to develop it, or wait for prints. And so on.
But maybe there are drawbacks to this. I can easily shoot a few hundred images in a weekend and then find myself sifting through two dozen shots of the same subject, with many similar shots and many failures. Maybe digital ease has spoiled me. Maybe I’d learn more if I am forced to think about every shot and had to worry about wasting film. Maybe I could learn something if I approach my digital camera as though it is shooting film.
In the past before digital, I chose my roll of “film” to be color, 24 exposure, 400 ISO. In other words, I put my camera’s settings to 400 ISO and color and didn’t change it for 24 exposures or delete any exposures. To minimise the number of times getting prints back to the lab, i kept these limitations while walking around snapping in the past.
I am not sure if I am any faster at photographing in “film” versus digital. I can often spend ten minutes or more shooting something from a variety of angles, trying every possibility so that I can have good choices later. I spend almost that much time in a few places trying to visualize and get exactly the right shot and often, deciding not even to take the shot because it just didn’t seem interesting enough to be worthy of one of the precious 24 exposures. In addition, I tried to refrain from photographing the same subject twice in most cases.
With the forethought put into most of these photos while using "film", several worked and I liked many of the results. I realized that most of the shots I didn’t take need not need to be taken. What I got was mostly what I would have liked to get.
Overall, as an avid photographer, i find that this is a good exercise in thinking before shooting and one that made me appreciate both "film" and digital camera technology even more. :-)
The word "Authentic" can be equal to "Real", "Original", "reliable", "trustworthy" or "dependable". It is within a person's character you respect for his or her honesty, for his or her openness, for his or her integrity. I am sure you know a few people like this in your life, right? Well, pick one and think about him or her for a moment. This person feels real to you. Genuine. Authentic. It is refreshing to be around this person, to get to know this person, to interact with this person. We feel safe around authentic / 'real' people, as if we could reveal to them our deepest darkest secrets, as if we could trust them with anything.
And when we get to know these people on a deeper level when we establish a connection with them, it is refreshing to find out that they are who we thought they were all along, that beneath the surface they are authentic.
Hi everyone, just would like to inform all of you that my photography website has been changed to an owned domain from now onwards. This is my new website address: http://www.jenniferteophotography.com
Anyone who surf or drop by at my old subdomain jennifer-teo.weebly.com will now be forwarded automatically to my new domain name.
My new photogaphy blog is http://www.jenniferteophotography.com/thats-life-blog.html
Thank you very much as always for dropping by and please continue to do so! Cheers :-)
Standing, getting crushed in the train during peak hour, I looked around and my heart sank. I was surrounded by sullen faces, their eyes focused intently on games on their iPads and smart phones. I took some shots and here goes my thoughts on them.
In this age of digital, film photography seems to have become obsolete. But I believe there is something special about film photography. There is something to be said about having one frame to get it right. And I know, getting it wrong more often than not, there is something magical that happens when the light, the subject, the shutter speed and the aperture align to create that perfect picture. No photoshop. No editing. Just right.
Are you looking for the best gift for your son or nephew? Perharps you should consider having a look at some cool Power Ranger toys. Any boys would love to have Power Rangers toys as a gift.
I recently bought this Power Ranger Samurai toy for my 8 years old nephew, Ryan Teo who is a huge power ranger fan! He absolutely loves it and spends all his time at home playing it. He was over joyed. I, personally, do not quite understand his love for Power Rangers in general but the look of pure joy on his face was all that mattered !
Sometimes he uses his imagination and pretends that he is a power ranger. Every now and then it 'rings' and tells him a command. For the attention span that boys have, if your kid is into Power Rangers, this is a great toy!